Friday, March 21, 2014

Are You the "Inviter" or the "Invitee"?


Are you the person who likes to invite or do you prefer to be invited?  This is something I have really never thought much about until last night.  Two of my close girlfriends and I met for coffee.  Ahhh, I love coffee night with friends.  Starbucks, 8:30pm, cup of coffee that is my kind of night out! J 

Of course, as soon as we meet it is as if you here the barista say, “On your mark, get set, go.”  We only get to meet up about once a month, so there is a lot of catching up to do.  Plus, Starbucks closes at 10pm that only leaves 90 minutes for three women to share.  It is nonstop talking and only minor breaks to breath and take a sip.  We always get reminded when they are about to close and then have to continue our conversation in the parking lot or walking around at the near by Kohl’s (they are open until  11pm).   Yep, I know…we walk on the wild side! J

Anyway, we started a conversation about inviting people to our homes or letting the kids have friends over.  I mentioned that I really need to be better about allowing my kids to have friends over.  Both of my friends love to extend invitations and have people over to their homes on a regular basis.  I on the other hand, really don’t invite people over unless it is a holiday or birthday.  Don’t get me wrong, it is not that I don’t want to open our home to other people; I just worry about what the other person will think.  I don’t want them to feel like they “have” to say yes or that they will feel pressured to come over.  Plus, I don’t want to interrupt other people’s family time.  My husband works every Saturday, so our only family day is Sunday, which also involves church and church related activities.  In my mind, most other families spend Saturdays together.  So, I don’t want to call and interrupt that time when both parents are home.  I know... I am aware that I tend to over think things.  J

So I decided last night that this is an area I need improvement.  I am really going to begin making an effort towards becoming more of the person who does the inviting.  What I found interesting is that one of my friends mentioned that since she usually does the inviting she feels she is never invited.  Isn’t that interesting? I would have never thought about that.  My other girlfriend, who I consider to be one of the most social people I know, joked that she just always invites herself to my house.  Which I love!  She does the work for me and there is no rejection!  PERFECT! J

So, I am curious, are you the "inviter" or the "invitee"?


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